There are many different types of violence that are taken against women. NIWHRC wants to shed light on all types of violence and bring resources to aid women in gathering the tools needed to end the violence.
Domestic violence and emotional abuse are behaviors used by one person in a relationship to control the other. Partners may be married or not married; heterosexual, gay, or lesbian; living together, separated or dating.
Examples of abuse include:
• Name-calling or putdowns
• Keeping a partner from contacting their family or friends
• Withholding money
• Stopping a partner from getting or keeping a job
• Actual or threatened physical harm
• Sexual assault
Violence can be criminal and includes physical assault (hitting, pushing, shoving, etc.), sexual abuse (unwanted or forced sexual activity), and stalking. Although emotional, psychological and financial abuse are not criminal behaviors, they are forms of abuse and can lead to criminal violence. Violence should not happen to anybody. But it does - and when it does, there is help. Maybe you have lived with abuse, maybe it happened just once; maybe you work or live next to someone who is being abused right now. Whatever the situation bottom line is abuse is WRONG!
Many people who are being abused do not see themselves as victims. Also, abusers do not see themselves as being abusive. People often think of domestic violence as physical violence, such as hitting. However, domestic violence takes other forms, such as psychological, emotional, or sexual abuse.
If your partner repeatedly uses one or more of the following to control you;
• pushing, hitting, slapping, choking, kicking, or biting
• threatening you, your children, other family members or pets
• threatening suicide to get you to do something
• using or threatening to use a weapon against you
• keeping or taking your paycheck
• puts you down or makes you feel bad
• forcing you to have sex or to do sexual acts you do not want or like
• keeping you from seeing your friends, family or from going to work
YOU HAVE BEEN ABUSED!!
If you are being abused, REMEMBER
1. You are not alone
2. It is not your fault
3. Help is available
It is not fair. You should not have to leave your home because of what your abuser has done. But sometimes it is the only way you will be safe. There are shelters that can help you move to a different city or state. Your local town court clerk can put you in touch with them, or look in the front of your phonebook for community services and emergency numbers.
National Domestic Violence Hotline - 1-800-799-7233 or 1-800-787-3224 (TDD)
Safe Link - 1-877-785-2020
American Domestic Violence Crisis Hotline - 1-866-879-6636
Rape Abuse and Incest National Network (RAINN) - 1-800-656-4673
Haven - 1-877-922-1274
Common Ground - 1-800-231-1127